As I was walking around Greyville Racecourse for my weekly exercise, I passed two woman talking and I heard the one say to the other:
she just opens her legs to any man and then wonders why she ends up being left hurt and confused
I gasped at this crude expression and battled to get rid of the mental picture it left me of this unfortunate, nameless girl..
This reminded me about an elderly confused patient I had to catheterise the other day at work , who was unable to pass urine and had a bladder stretced almost to her ribcage, about to pop!!
I had to get my collegues to help me as she squeezed her legs shut, preventing me from catheterising her.
It further led me to think how open and willing my own marriage is and how blessed I am..
I thanked God and prayed for the nameless girl that was being discussed by the other two woman.
I felt God’s Spirit interjecting my thoughts:
openess has everything to do with relationships, not just on a physical platform.
Ok, Holy Spirit. You got my attention.Tell me more, I replied when only silence followed.
Intimacy can be taken forcefully against someones will, which is rape.
Sometimes,intimidation is used by playing on emotions, leading to fragile girls like your ”unnamed girl openig herselve, hoping to fill a need. Or intimacy, can be given freely, having been asked for out of true love and being given with true love.
Ok. That all sounds right. And? Where are You going with this?
When we minister or relate to people, we will come up against those who will resist and be closed. Those people are best left alone for the time being. If you purposefully go ahead and force your way in, trying to just get your point across, you will not gain their hearts, but end up pushing them away further, or even hurting them.
If you use words of flattery and appeal in order to try and win them over to open up,the end result too will end up disasterous, for it is indirectly a reversed or inverted way of force. Their openness is not given based on their willingness.
But when a person, by the Spirit of God, the Spirit of Love, has been brought to the place where they are ready to receive the message you have to share, not because you are forcefull or you are using intimidation, only then it is right and will be able to enter that person.Then , when they receive, they will conceive only goodness, as it was intended.
I continued walking in silence, trying to take in the weight of this astounding truth!
but I started,( feeling instantly like my six year old that always has to try and argue his points with a but), sometimes, someone you love NEEDS to hear the truth in order to prevent them from getting hurt.It is wrong to stand by and see them destroy themselves when you hold the answers.
mmm, yes,my Friend and Councillor responds( and I can alomost feel Him smiling)
That is why I brought to mind your patient you needed to catheterise. Due to her confusion, she was not open to the help she needed.Did you go ahead and tried to catheterise your patient without any help, you would have had to fight her off and she would have ended up bruised. But with the help of others, you could go ahead in gentle firmness and help her. This is no different to someone who is closed to the truth.You can speak the truth once, and if they resist, you dont go ahead and force your way.You stand back, and pray (ask)for help and then you leave it. God will send others across the persons path to slowly chip away at the person until they are open to the truth.
Always remember.Openeness has everything to do with relationships.
That is what makes Jesus distinct from any other god.
He stands at the door and knocks. He never forces His entry